Friday, April 22, 2011

S.....is for Secrets

Oh is there anything better than a bunch of women with some juicy gossip to tell? Not so good if you're the one they are gossiping about. If you're not.....then its pure delight. Don't believe in that old myth that its only women who love to spread gossip because I have known some men who can put gossiping women to shame. Its like telling CNN when you tell them something.

I'm not a spreader of gossip but I will listen to it and not comment. I make it a practice to only say something about a person that I would say to his or her face. So I have to think before I speak.... always. As a confidential secretary I was exposed to more secrets than the average person. I can honestly say that I never revealed one single thing that was told to me in confidence. Its always been important to me to have people trust me.

I not only carry a good reputation in the work-world as someone who can be trusted, but my friends and family knew they could also vent to me and it will go no further. Sometimes.....I will have to admit.....I would have rather not known some of the things that were told to me. I could break up families, friendships and marriages with the knowledge I have and that's not always a good feeling. Sometimes its a heavy burden to carry.

Many years ago, I drew the picture that is attached to this post and named it "Market Day Socializing". For obvious reasons, it appeals to me. It was also the colors I used for my living room at the time. Whenever I look at it, I'm reminded how secrets, known by the wrong people, can destroy someone's life and can take on a snowball effect.....getting bigger and more out of control as it rolls around from one person to the next. 'Tis better to just keep your mouth shut and your ears open.

8 comments:

Jamie said...

Awesome post and drawing. You are uber talented, and very, very trustworthy. Happy Friday Hugs. :)

glnroz said...

"Listen,,do you want to know a secret..." humm wonder where that came from,, lol... great drawing, yhou should post it so we can get a better look at it.

Joy Des Jardins said...

Love your drawing Val...and really good post. Yeah secrets....powerful and potent things. I'm very good at keeping them...and am very cautious sharing them. Happy weekend sweet friend... ~Joy

dc said...

I saw a little of myself in this post. I have a few folks who call me the "keeper of the secrets" sometimes it can be a heavy load. Other times it is just so much fun to sit back and let things roll on. :)

token said...

That picture is awesome.

I know some things I wish I didn't, too.

Linda Medrano said...

Lovely post. I think I have let the wrong info slip and was horrified that I had said it. I did learn a lesson though and have never done it again. Careless words can't be taken back.

dana said...

That was THE perfect picture for your post. You make me wish I'd kept my paintings when I left home.

But where gossip is concerned, I was so surprised at the way the men gossiped on the fire department!

But there's one huge difference between men and women. Women gossip to WOUND, men gossip to spread the word. If it's bad, so be it.

But with women, it's required to be bad, and harmful.

ILoveMyDogandMy Music said...

The men I know love to gossip. I can go to lunch with 3 men and they are talking about everybody and they seem to know everything. I'm not saying that lunch with women friends don't stir up the same thing, but in my circle it's the men who won't leave it alone.