Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Well.....this just stinks

Yep, here I am still up....bright eyed and bushy tailed and its 3 o'clock in the morning. I have an eye doctor's appointment today and I'm extremely nervous over it. I do not want another shot in the eye!

So, hopefully, I won't have to have one.....but my condition has not improved that much.....although it HAS improved. I just can't predict what's going to happen and that's making me fearful.

And.....another thing. I might as well say it, although I am ashamed to. My 40 year old son once again ignored me on Mother's Day. No card, no phone call....not even a drive-by wave. He only lives a mile and a half away so that's no excuse. I guess it wouldn't bother me so much if I hadn't gone to hell and back raising him. He was/is ADHD and I suspect some bi-polar thrown in for good measure. Back then they didn't have names for that stuff.....he was just known as a kid who was into everything (a la Dennis the Menace) and I received a phone call from the school on a daily basis. Lord give me strength. Well, my daughter and granddaughter showed up on Sunday and we had a lovely day. Thank God for her. She brought dinner, flowers and cards and most of all......Love! My grandson called .... he was unable to come over as he worked 14 hours that day.

So I did get remembered but it still hurts to have one of your children neglect you on those special days. Especially when you don't even know why. I hope none of you ever experience it. No matter how hard you try to protect yourself from it.....it still does hurt.

Update: I DID have to have another shot in my eye (shudder) but the doctor feels that this should be my last one. He says the eye is healing nicely and wants to see me again in 2 months.

11 comments:

Mary said...

Hi Val, actually I went through the very same thing. My son is 25 and I haven't seen or spoke to him in over 2 years now and it does hurt. I am thankful that my daughter is around, she's 22 and we did have a nice Mothers day. All day Saturday, I thought about how great it would be if he called, but once again, nothing. Since his father and I divorced 12 years ago he pretty much hates us both. I'm real sorry about your eye probs, it must be awful, maybe this round of medicine will do the trick. If you want a little giggle, maybe you can read about me and my dog Fred http://mybostonmyfriend.blogspot.com/.
He always puts a grin on my face. Any way, hang in there and I will be thinking of you. (I'm a bit of an insomniac myself.) I really do love your blog.

dc said...

I think my son only remembers Mothers Day because he was born the evening before. Having kids isn't easy. Well actually I think "having" them is the easy part. No one tells you all the heart aches you will have. My dtr. and I were out of sync for about 10 years due to an abusive husband that kept her away from her family. She has broken free and it is so good to have her in my life again! My "kids" are 43 and 45 now. Of course I had them when I was only 12. LOL

fiwa said...

I'm sorry Val, that would hurt anyone's feelings. :(

I hope you don't get a shot in the eye - that is the scariest thing I've ever heard! I'll be sending good vibes your way.

love you,
fiwa

Leann said...

It is nice to hear you had a wonderful Mother's Day with your daughter. I truly am sorry that your son has chosen to treat you this way. There is nothing that will break a mother's heart faster than an injustice served up by their child. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and he in hopes he will pull his head out of his.....ahem.

Blessed be and have a lovely day.

Joy Des Jardins said...

It's going to hurt because it's your son. Some people just don't naturally think of these niceties that make a day like Mother's Day special. But, even though moms let a lot of things roll off their backs, it still hurts. I'm glad your daughter makes up for your son with so much love for you...you certainly have earned it...and deserve it.

Good luck with your eye appt. I'm the same way when it comes to doctor's appts. Everything will be fine Val.... ~Joy

Happyone : ) said...

Sorry, that must hurt.
Hope all went well at the eye doctor.

ShirleyAnn said...

Oh, I understand up at 3:00 dreading eye appt. I had cateract surgery Monday and was freaked out for a month, one eye to go on 23rd. But I would have been more freaked out about a shot in the eye. Sorry about your Mothers Day. My son never gets me anything for Mothers Day. Used to, but he leaves things to his wife, and about 3 years ago she got mad at the whole family, and has nothing to do with any of us. So there went the gifts. And they do not come to family functions. My 3 girls come through and made my day.

Paxie said...

I'm also glad your daughter came through for you and brought LOVE. I only have one child. A 24 year old son. They do things differently than girls, don't they? GRRRRRR.

I wish I had a daughter LOL

I felt your pain...seriously.

((Hugs))

dana said...

The FACT IS that the ones who ignore us hurts SO MUCH that it ruminates in our mind even when we're in a situation that calls for happiness. After trying to expunge Joe's daughter from our lives and finally, after 8 years, found some happiness, she could stand it and sent him a registered letter that he had to sign for, not knowing who it was from.

So, here we were, trying to FORGET her cruelties and thoughtlessness and she FORCES us to remember her and experience her hateful personality by sneaking her hate to us through the mail.

Choose the ignoring and distance, even though he's nearby. He could be harassing you and making your last days one of constant belligerence.

Cheryl said...

I wonder what your son was thinking on that day, and how he justified his actions. It's very sad and I'm sorry for the hurt you feel. Thank goodness for your daughter!

Peruby said...

When I get my feelings hurt (like you mentioned) I try to think of other Mom's out there whose child is in jail or has a serious drug problem or (god forbid) missing and try to be thankful that I am not in their shoes.

I am not downplaying your feelings (AT ALL!). I agree with you. It hurts and they should know better, but it makes me feel a wee bit better.

I hope that one day he makes up for it. As a sister with 3 brothers I would try to drop a hint to him to say "Hey, come on! Just a phone call or send a card at the very least!"